Sunday, November 05, 2000
Early this morning, my Guidance directed me to listen to the Netherlands and France radio news summaries relayed through the CBC radio overnight broadcast. Some of the developments and statistics below come from those with other information from Project Earth Report investigations.

It has long been my awareness that the information on the Earthtym pages together with the benefits of Spiritually Guided Balancing Therapy could enable much easier and harmonious relationships between men, women, and their children. The recent mass media and world political recognition of the growth and extensiveness of male-female relationship breakdown phenomenon, and its ACCEPTANCE, has prompted this report to assist our publicity and marketing efforts.

1. INTRODUCTION
The future of humanity is increasingly threatened by the entrenchment of compulsive energy block founded anti-social behaviors. Throughout our recorded history, largely a history of political abuses leading to regional war and destruction, the genetic weight of energy blocks has grown. Their presence, and their influence, is an indication of how long and how far we have strayed from the spiritual perspective all humans are capable of and with which humanity was created. The outcome is not the will of God but the choice of human individuals, multiplied through their genetic, imprinting, mentoring, and behavior influences. During the next 10 to 15 years, humanity will have its last opportunity to substantially reverse this trend, or, be annihilated by it.

God's grace and hope for us is that the Health Balancing Package, the Project Earth files, and our Team articles (now part of the Health-4-All Package) and profiles have been made available, through Guided work to facilitate positive change. Other projects and efforts with a similar potential may be in development elsewhere. This is what We have to work with. Governments and social institutions have displayed their unwillingness to understand and cope with these "family" problems. Any change, at this point, will grow from the level of the individual to the majority, NOT from political or social leadership (power and authority) to the individual.

European political changes have put into law a recognition that religious and political authorities have nothing constructive to provide to the development and maintenance of health interpersonal relationships. Building their power on a history of human authority domination, the resulting abusive behaviors have spread throughout much of organized humanity. Almost everyone in North America, Europe, The Commonwealth of Independent States (formerly the USSR), and industrialized areas of South American, Asian, African, and Australian nations carries the scars of abuse and the compulsion to inflict others with the dis-ease. At this point, governments are too afraid and too lacking in spiritual direction to provide any leadership for positive change. It is politically incorrect to acknowledge the fact that some practices are wrong, that we are ignorant and need interpersonal skills, and that trends are not a justification.

2. SOCIAL HARMONY SUPPORT
It is now ACCEPTABLE increasingly in all of the geographical areas noted above for women to EXPECT that they will become single parent families and that a respectful male partner will NEVER be found. It is equally becoming prominent that men are increasingly being burdened with enslavement to commercial production resulting in a lack of development of and a lack of continuance of positive interpersonal skills. Endemically, individuals are losing, or have lost, any awareness or acceptance of what it means to be human.

Society is breaking down into production robots (men) that want sex objects (women) to feel human (self-esteem), and production robots (women) that want dependency objects (children) to feel human (self-esteem). Such a reduction of human relationships to emotionless abandonment and possessiveness leaves the self-esteem of the individual fragile and always in challenge. Without strong self-esteem and a spiritual perspective, the energies required to believe, express, and promote a respect for the opposite gender are absent. What is felt most needed, is pushed away. When the object sought is lost, the need increases --- together with the anger and frustration of loss --- which will destroy future attempts at harmony. ALL participants lose.

Health research findings released during the summer of 2000 clearly indicate that children from single parent families have a higher incidence of illness, disease, and interpersonal difficulties than children from 2-parent families --- even when the 2-parent families are dysfunctional by way of abusive behaviors!

3. SOCIAL
In Ireland, divorce was illegal until 1996.
A predominantly Roman Catholic and Protestant fundamentalist society, marital separation and the birth of children outside of state and church sanctioned marriage was denied through social abuse, ostracism, and worse, UNTIL, ten years ago. With no fundamental changes or additions to the education of children to preparing them for a harmonious relationship with positive frustration and anger coping skills, awareness-based interpersonal communication skills, health enhancing behaviors, sexual and sensual awareness --- the opportunity for intense errors of personal and interpersonal disrespect to occur in such situations continued to grow. During the past 10 years, the rate of teenage pregnancies has rocketed.

In Ireland, the number of single parent families grew from almost nothing in 1990 to 17% of the whole in 2000. The divorce rate doubled between 1998 and 1999. The statistics are not as dramatic in change in many other countries because there was increased freedom for them to be realized over decades rather than the situation being dammed up with denial until a door was opened.

In North America, as a comparative example, divorce was largely unavailable as an alternative to relationship breakdown until 1975, excepting extreme socially explicit reasons such as long periods of imprisonment, insanity, adultery, lack of sexual involvement. These rationalizations broadened a little in the late 1970s, more in the 1980s. The consistent findings of research repeatedly conducted since 1970 continue to indicate that over 50% of marriages will result in divorce, over 70% of marriages will become unhappy, over 25% (in Canada) of marriages will result in physical abuse of a partner, date rape will occur to 30% of women.

Marriage counselling was largely unavailable until the 1970s in North America. Most religions mention very little about marriage in terms of interpersonal communication, sexual awareness, or parenting. This is largely because at the time of the founding of each religion, there was little political organization, minimal commercial involvement, no industry or information culture. Spouses and family members typically worked side-by-side or nearby each other all day every day. Interpersonal communication was relaxed, frequent, able to develop in constructive complexity as the child grew to adulthood.

Now, most parents have little to pass on to their children which is constructive. They have received little from their parents to prepare them either for intimacy or for familiar harmony in a commerce-centered society. Schools have improved from almost nil preparation to a little preparation for intimacy. Peer groups have graduated from gender distancing to gender objectifying to gender abuse.

A few churches have promoted pre-marriage courses since the 1960s. Considerations undertaken after an emotional commitment has been made. A few churches promote spiritual retreat sessions for married members, usually damage control after interpersonal abuse has occurred. Mass media of popular music, hollywood movies, magazines, and increasingly, television and radio --- promote self-centred, materialistic, non-spiritual values. Where is there an alternative?

4. HARMONY
Good interpersonal communication, sensual and sexual awareness, and a spiritual perspective are either part of the preparation for adult intimacy, or, interpersonal damage will happen. That is what marriage and family life is: intimacy --- being close to one another; commitment; sharing. Harmony begins in the home. A nation of unharmonious families is a nation dying a slow death. Nations of unharmonious families are humanity slowly dying. Few intimate relationships are salvaged after expressions of disrespect.

We, as a culture, have learned to be aware of more options and skills for positive relationship building. We have tended to conserve those opportunities for individuals with the time, money, Basic Personality interest, and those desperate to avoid the past. We have replaced "natural" preparation patterns with an absence of the natural and of preparation. We have made everyone an island unto themselves. Even God has been made distant, foreign, abstract, unimportant. You keep what is important in your life close to you and primary in your thoughts.

Harmony can be attained technically by adding opposites into the equation. If intimacy and time are problems, you can replace them with intimacy-on-demand. What you get is prostitution, brothels, and marriage partners for sale. But the risk in these "real" interpersonal relationships is that they are both public and must remain hidden. The deception must remain illusion. Few people tell their friends and relatives about the latest prostitute they bedded. Few spouses confide to their familial relationships that they only married their partner because of their beauty, social respect, power, riches --- material attributes. We buy this illusion with modern magic: the way we dress, what we drive, where we live, what we work at, how we speak, whether we smoke, what we drink, how we socialize, how much we have of what. If the put on is adequate, we will snare the prey. But then what happens? Forced or co-dependent harmony?

The commercial age has extended technical harmony in expanse.
Radio soap operas allowed us to live intimacy emotional rollercoasters through the acted out illusions of others. We were along for the ride but always escaped the inevitable accident, or death, of the relationship, or the person. Those grew into television serials, and drew us closer. Not close enough, we spawned intimate relationship pocket novels we could take everywhere with us. Men smoked, drank, and worked for promotion to get their high. Women read. It was socially more acceptable to do these than the more obvious. More acceptable until the true nature of addiction seeped out. Relationships that were good or were promising could now be infected. Addiction arises from the illusion that some form of magic will eliminate the past and make a new future. We won't have to be responsible or humble. We won't have to admit to a mistake that we don't understand and have no solution to. But the mistake doesn't go away, cannot be undone.

The information age has extended technical harmony in intensity.
The Internet has provided the unprepared with a tool of personalization and immediacy together with a suggestion of anonymity and privacy. We can take part in an electronic soap opera by accessing any of the thousands of chat rooms active 24 hours a day. We can become whatever kind of person we want to play. We can leave anytime. The other person is just a contact. They can become the ultimate tool of our deception and manipulation, or, a close friend gradually and safely approached from a distance, and, totally at the mercy of their skill to communicate. But how do you know which is real and which is illusion? Do you even care?

Add commercialization together with information age and extend to solve the intimate relationship "problem" and we have online pornography. Intimacy is the oldest recorded human social problem. Structured and arranged marriages led to adultery. Material wealth and necessity produced prostitution. Painting produced erotic and sexually explicit art. The first sexually explicit photographs were produced shortly after the camera was invented. Silent films immediately resulted in silent pornography.

Color and sound simply extended the illusion of reality, the length, sophistication, and cost of the feature. VCRs increased the personalization of possession and use as well as adding to the secrecy and privacy desired. Digital cameras enabled everyone, with money, to become an amateur pornographer and erotic artist. The Internet promises to complete the conversion of the human to cyborg: the human acting like a machine thinking it is a human.

Internet pornography sites number, according to 1998 statistics, in the tens of thousands. (In 2004, estimates range to hundreds of thousands of sites!) They offer access to anyone who has access to a credit card, or, an e-mail address. There is a presumption of maturity if you have a credit card. There is a presumption of no harm if you are "mature". The reality is that the visitor has a need for intimacy which he or she cannot satisfy readily in more socially acceptable and personally enjoyable ways.

According to 1999 statistics, Internet pornography sites earned 60% of all the money made from the Internet. The nature of their intended use has driven Internet technology development with online gaming coming second. The illusion is that one can hook up to the Internet at any moment and have an intimate (visual) connection with a naked person of attractive dimensions. The fantasy is that one can project themselves into the physical interaction pictured as taking place by others, as if they were there. Intimacy is hopefully resolved, and the need goes away.

There is a huge problem with the technical approach to intimacy.
It doesn't work. It promises what it cannot deliver. It cannot give you a relationship of empathy, compassion, sensual touch, commitment, acceptance. ALL of these demand time. No technical solution can provide the quality of contact, although technicians are working on it. No technical solution can give you an experience of time duration. It can't have you experience 12 hours or 12 days or 12 years of togetherness in a matter of minutes. Quality doesn't compute. And within every human is the knowledge that somehow, somewhere, that quality can be found and experienced. Quality of intimacy but also quality of life. If that possibility becomes so distant that it is no longer sought, grieved, or acknowledged --- life will become mechanical, life-less.

Harm comes when illusion and deception become one's reality.
The more most people experience technical solutions to intimacy, the more they grieve the loss of what they either know is possible, or, hope is possible. Grief is never resolved until you express anger, express acknowledgement of loss, and begin looking for a new direction. If you are attempting to experience intimacy you would like through a mental fantasy with a machine, such intellectualization encourages you to distance your anger and frustration as much as your intimacy. After all, the machine is giving you everything it can so why be angry with it. And you can't be angry with the person or persons rejecting you --- they aren't there.

So your Unconscious (Reptilian Structure) takes the anger and frustration and applies it to the image that represents your desire. For many men, that image is a woman. For many men, control and power suggest resolution to the felt control and power which the female object exerts over the skills starved and emotionally abandoned male. It is little wonder that most depictions of women on sexually explicit Internet sites demonstrate disrespect, power, control --- perpetrated by one or more males. Happiness becomes abusiveness.

A steady patterning of this imagery insures that the male will fail in a real interpersonal relationship. It is predictable, and statistically confirmed, that females, of all ages, are the major participants in Internet Chat sessions and major purchasers of intimate romance novels. It is also predictable, and statistically confirmed, that males are the major consumers visiting Internet pornography sites. And, in our New Age society of "what's good for me" the immediacy of the Internet threatens to destroy the permanency of any intimate relationship.

5. SUPPORT
There is only one way to constructively cope with reality.
First, you must discover reality.
If you consider all kinds of options for apparent and potentially possible situations which will never arise, you are training to be a loser. Only the basic facts of what the benefits and risks are can give you an ability to determine what is a relevant option for you and what just sounds good or bad. The Health-4-All Package provides some of these facts. Project Earth information files provide other facts.

Social reality is often sanitized of those facts which expose its cultural or political weaknesses and mistakes. Myths and illusions are often encouraged as means of distracting people and manipulating them with fantasies into surrendering their authority to governments and institutions. If you don't know what is real, how are you going to decide? We are a society which is sold and which buys illusions and fantasies. Our market is those who have had enough of that and want something better.

Secondly, you have to discover yourself.
You cannot know what you don't know. If you don't know how something feels, how can you know what others may feel? If you can't express a certain emotion or your emotions are confused, how can you be aware of how you are interacting with others and how you are integrating with your environment? If you don't know what you like, how can you expect others to know what you like?

If you don't know how your brain functions, what style of communication you use, how energy blocks have constrained you, how different it has been for you to find a spiritual perspective, how infinitely different it is possible for each of us to be from each other --- how can you empathize with others, show compassion, develop understanding, be sincere, seek the truth, determine your options, and, choose them constructively? The Health-4-All Package assists this by providing explanations of many of these areas as well as examples of possibilities.

Thirdly, with reality revealed and one's self understood, there is action.
You can be the best informed and the most aware person and still end up making horrendous errors. Doing what you intend to be best, or, what someone else believes is best, is little more of a guarantee than chance. Most of the time, good intentions are counterproductive. Traditional rules laid down by institutions for application in another time, another political and social environment --- are often counter-productive, even destructive in the present.

The Health-4-All Package discusses Spiritual Guidance in depth --- not in a philosophical or theoretical fashion but from a practical, real, operating reality. It is not suggested as a possible alternative to despair, confusion and failure. It is the only real alternative. The Health-4-All Package gives each person an opportunity to grow as little or as much as they are ready to do and receive the benefits accordingly. There is no human authority involved to dispense shame unfairly or be impatient with you. Throughout the Package the participant is encouraged to become self-directed and realistically hopeful. The person can learn the benefit of relevant action as Spiritually Guided.