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Contentment vs Anger.
Choice for the Present.
It is our choice as to whether we wish to determine our future by living in the Past or interacting with the Present.
We have no ability to change the Past, so living there is perpetuating defeat, illusion, or success. If we perpetuate defeat, by the constant re-living of it through memory, we make ourselves losers. If a store has changed ownership and product and service from groceries to car parts, it doesn't matter how much we search for and demand baked goods in the new store. They don't have it, so, our insistence blinds our awareness, reality, and success. The more stubborn we choose to be, the more we fail.
If we use past or present Illusions and Projections to guide our responses, we are simply reacting to assumptions, expectations, inner weaknesses and strengths. Without feedback to verify reality by testing our observations, we encourage error. Repeating the pattern simply intensifies the degree to which we are successful and in error. Huge errors can be devastating. Huge successes simply provide us with more power to commit bigger catastropies.
Optimal success can only come from interacting with the Present.
It is the ever changing Present which provides us with the Actual alternatives and choices open to us. Noticing that we have entered our Past familiar location to find a new owner and new services, we could add the new change to our memory, introduce ourselves to the new owner, and, respectfully ask if the previous owner has moved the previous business to another location nearby. If that is not the case, and we are unaware of other alternatives, we can further ask the new owner if they are aware of a store with bakery goods nearby. It is possible that others have asked and that they have already learned of such. That can save you repeating their search. Finding a REAL alternative which is RELEVANT for you makes you a winner.
Jesus Christ taught that it was evil to carry injuries and hurts from one day to the next. Doing so only prolongs the life of such conflict and imposes a negative veil over one's perceptions, emotions, thinking, and actions. All of these encourage ill health and failure. Why choose to relive a failure whether you were the source of it or the recipient of it? All of the parties involved just keep hurting each other by such a choice with nothing being resolved. Caring and love for one another is withheld by one or both persons choosing to disrespect the other and choosing to exaggerate one's own weaknesses.
Teamwork. or, Self-Exclusion?
Interaction, openness, honesty, acknowledgement, mediation, flexibility, reconciliation, support, and resolution are the factors of success that can lead to acceptance, respect, teamwork, partnership, sharing, and love. They demand trust in yourself that you want for yourself the best that is possible with the realization that the support of others can provide you with more than your own solitary efforts. They demand that the other individual also believe that they deserve the best and the awareness that no one is perfect. Understanding can lead to acknowledgement which can provide motivation for change such that an agreement respecting the individuality of each is offered, an apology is made, forgiveness is granted, actions are changed to the positive, future conflict is prevented; harmony evolves.
The challenge is that each person must have positive self-esteem for the team to be successful. The "team" may be formed by friendship, work requirement, service delivery, intimacy, idealism. The permanency of a team and the degree of its success are determined by the ability of the participants to work together for a goal which is considered more important that the self-needs of either. Harmony evolves through self-sufficiency and sharing, not by co-dependency, deception, manipulation, distrust, dishonesty, and projection. With that knowledge, you have an awareness that provides you with opportunity and a wide range of choices.
Negotiation is a risk for the result will be determined by both your interaction and that of the other person. If you don't make the effort, neither of you have the opportunity. You are not responsible for their choices. You are responsible for whether you invite success, or, resign yourself to failure. You can either be an extention of the Grace of God, or, of Evil.
What of our two EXAMPLES?
While the examples are from a Canadian Province, the legal complexity, detail, structure, formality, and injustice ... is common to most legal systems.
- Tenancy Rights (Ontario);
TENANCY RIGHTS:
Attempts to bring the conflict into the open and resolve it were continually made through the period of apparent disagreement. One does not take a distanced attitude towards another, spread lies which are malicious by their influence, refuse to acknowledge, seek to coerce, deceive others into destructive involvement, commit illegalities against the rights of others --- out of harmony! Thus, conflict existed between myself, the "non-tenant" who was renting a room and storage space, and, the "non-landlord" who was supplying it.
From the beginning, I was, as I have always been, open, direct, and interested in resolving any conflict whether illusory or real in perception. I offered talk and was not listened to, many times. I offered a written assessment with a request for feedback, and was rejected 3 times. I offered compromise, and received anger and acting out. I acknowledged demands AND my rights, and met with hostility. I made arrangements to work within the unrealistic demands of the landlord and was thwarted in my efforts. I requested less interference, and received more. I asserted the possibility of legal action, and was encouraged. I offered negotiation, and was denied. Who is Losing?
I followed up on my assertions and received a Housing Rental Tribunal Hearing date and time. I extended the feedback I received from the legal authorities and received options and understanding, acknowledgement and support. During this period, I also followed Guidance to obtain a truck rental, two possibilities for relocation, numerous possibilities for new clientele, improved health activities, completion of influential new files for Earthtym.net, and had excellent weather during my move with excellent timing for access to the new facilities and for the dumping of a large amount of resources no longer useful to keep. I followed my Guidance throughout, and remained calm and in control of my choices. Who is Winning?
Anger vs Contentment: It's a Choice!
As those close to me know, 95% of the time through this conflict, I experienced contentment --- as an extension of positive self-esteem, positive self-direction, positive self-projection, positive self-assertion, positive expectancy, AND, a willingness to request, acknowledge, and choose to follow Spiritual Guidance. The legal system failed me in providing materialistic success. That was a given by its structure and limitations. God never failed me.
And what of my landlord?
Her actions betray her state of emotions and mind.
A person has to be totally out-of-control and unmediated for them to act out in such extremes and advertise it to the world by inviting others into the conflict according to their co-dependency on her. In reality, what did she gain. Early departure of someone who was planning to move. The distrust of those around her for her manipulation of them and for her excesses of negativity. A setting aside of an Order (hers) which was "of no force", a dismissal of an application which was pre-excluded by legal exceptions, a loss of support for personal development which had already safeguarded her company many times and assisted her and many who knew her to reduce their energy blocks.
JUSTICE: Whose life would you rather have led?
Whose consequences would you have wanted to be left with?
What of our second EXAMPLE?
While the examples are from a Canadian Province, the legal complexity, detail, structure, formality, and injustice ... is common to most legal systems.
- Tenancy Rights (Ontario);
- Defamation and Libel (Ontario).
DEFAMATION and LIBEL:
Much of the defamation noted here is hidden behind the passivity and cowardice of the protagonist and her co-dependent spiritual slaves who bought and sold half-truths on the market of public gossip. Unwilling, or unable to share their concerns and be open to feedback which would challenge and easily put into perspective, or even deny with proof, the accusations of my self-appointed protagonist --- they elected to become accomplices in self-incrimination.
Why would someone interfere in the private concerns of others?
Acceptance, fear, apathy, anxiety, energy block weakness to be spiritually and emotionally strong could each, or in any combination, be the factors. It could also include the fact that my protagonist did not feel strong enough to handle the problem SHE had created by herself. They accepted to get involved. They did so with the clear knowledge that because of my demonstrated Spiritual Perspective and personal strength of choice in following Spiritual Guidance I would not react with violence and force against them. To persecute me without that assurrance would have been, well, stupid.
Without such a direction and centeredness, I could have reacted with severe anger, and, eventually with rage. That might have resulted in damage to each of them physically, perhaps to members of their families, perhaps to their residences or work places. Is anyone that stupid to invite such devastation. So, they knew that I was innocent and took advantage of that balance to pass on the abuse they received from my protagonist to me. They had to do that because they were not secure enough in themselves to reject the insinuations, threats, and prodings of my protagonist. Nor were they strong enough to enquire as to the truth. If you don't ask for the truth, you don't have to accept it. You don't have to reject what you don't know. Is ignorance bliss? Or, is ignorance simply an indication of the level of weakness of one's coping skills?
Self-responsibility is one trait of successful people.
If I am going to be held responsible for my attitudes and actions, I want to know what I am making decisions about. I want the most accurate and most relevant detail so that my actions are not wasted. That is why I chose to be humble and ask questions all day long. I would rather be well-informed and prepared than to be uninformed and unable to cope in a constructive manner. How self-responsible have my protagonist and her cling-ons been? Don't like my choice of word. It does describe accurately THEIR choice of action. If you don't like the consequences, change the choice.
A positive attitude allows me flexibility and provides me with focus. Because I am continually learning, I experience joy. Because I am gaining something that I can often share with others to improve their lives, that potential also pleases me. Solving problems brings me hope and reverence. The larger the problem, the greater the triumph in finding a solution. And these two problems were major. So, the end-point has brought major JOY. Isn't JUSTICE partly about who gets the most JOY? The law, as it is, is seldom going to uphold justice. If you want justice, make it for yourself through your own integrity.
You are what you do!
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