INDEX
1. Spiritual Guidance.
2. Muscle Testing.
3. Medical Doctors, MD's.
4. Holistic Practitioners.
5. Alternative Facilitators.
6. Supplements: All-in-One.
7. Supplements: Herbs.
8. Supplements: Hormones.
9. Supplements: Minerals.
10. Supplements: Spices.
11. Supplements: Vitamins.
12. Housing: attached/row.
13. Housing: detached.
14. Produce: General.
15. Produce: Local.
16. Produce: Organic.
17. Devices : Activities.
18. Devices : Environment.
19. Devices : Therapeutic.
20. Friends.

1. Spiritual Guidance

Accurate Spiritual Guidance will enable
the best of decisions.
It don't come easy! And, one may find it necessary to build over years.
When I started, I didn't have ANY of the info on Earthtym.net.
I also had over 145 energy blocks and a host of hidden blocks.
I had 35 hypersensitivities and 4 of those were life threatening.
I was told by "experts" that recovery was impossible; prepare to die.
That was 1988. I innovated and discovered Spiritual Guidance.
With THAT help, I released ALL of my energy blocks.
I also got rid of ALL of my hypersensitivities.
I went on to assist hundreds of others.

YOU can learn to get Spiritual Guidance, and, get it accurately.
FEW people make the effort. Perhaps it is simply easier to come to me.
Often, it is because they don't know about it, or, lack the motivation.
Or, they don't want to read the info I have on Earthtym.net and practice.
If you work at perfecting it, like any other talent or skill, you will SAVE an abundance of time, effort, money, and, AVOID a huge amount of disappointment, regret, guilt, conflict, anger, anxiety, and missed appointments. IF you think you are getting It and it is easy for you, you are wide open for a lot of errors and misdirections.
It takes Time and effort to SAVE Time and effort.

It can be easy to receive fast bursts of Intuition (accuracy: 20% to 80%) and to have a quickness of rational thought (accuracy: 50%). It is even usual for some people to receive bursts of Spiritual Guidance (accuracy 100%). Seldom is one so alert and focused and free of distractions as to undeniably receive Spiritual Guidance accurately without double-checking. I've been using and perfecting my own skill for 20 years and ASKING hundreds and thousands of Questions daily. I double check what I receive just to keep my Identity Factors from interfering. The more you let them, the better they will become at interfering .. and the more deceived you will be by them.

Timing is critical if you want
an ACCURATE Spiritually Guided answer.
ALL humans have been gifted with CHOICE, whether and how often they use it.
That means that potentially 6 billion persons can change their minds every half-second! That and other factors potential influence the Guided answer for YOU. Accuracy means rechecking whenever the Answer can greatly be influenced ... Timing. Here are some standard reasons why:

• you are distracted by intense emotions & the Guidance is disrupted;
• you forgot about an integral factor: adjust, reschedule, cancel, ..;
• a commitment is delayed by the forgetfulness of someone: forgive;
• an appointment is delayed by schedule changes: reschedule;
• Your Identity Factors (one or more) are immature;
• you are in public and don't have a tactful way of rechecking;
• someone, is incompetent, lazy, proud, energy blocked;
• accident/delay along your expected route: change the route?

Spiritual Guidance can be the only certainty you can Trust in your life and on your way to Recovery, yet, only if you take the time and energy to learn it, perfect it, and safeguard it.

2. Muscle Testing

You will find the above note near the bottom of many pages in this section.
It is there for a reason. It is too easy, once again, to be deceived by your own pride and weakness, or, by that of others whom you have chosen to trust.

Here is an article about Muscle Testing.

The skill you learn, or discern, may save your life.

3. Medical Doctors, MD's

Doctors in North America work under many restrictions.
These limitations enable the medical system to operate more like an industry than like a service. Are we encouraging good health, or, providing a level of service controlled by authorities. Doctors choose to work in the field out of sincerity, idealism, parental expectation, or a need for one or more of power, fame, excitement, or acceptance. Doctors do their best work, not on the TV, but in their clinics when patients present simple direct health issues, easy to diagnose, and capable of remedy by pharmaceuticals, surgery, radiation, or, placebo.

TH1 Cytokine Symptoms are expressed by most people with CFS-ME as well as many other chronic illnesses. They make YOU "difficult" to communicate with. Add an atmosphere of rush (10 minute interview), an attitude of denial (the old cast-off medical belief that CFS-ME is hypochondria or hysteria), a likely sense of urgency by the patient (how relaxed would you be with the Symptoms), and an order-taker sense of dismissal asking you which ONE symptom you would like treated, ... and you can likely remember the usual conflict generated responses.

A few Guidelines to prepare the CFS-ME patient to see their doctor can be a huge help. If possible, obtain the DVD, "Recovering from Chronic Disease." Find and review several times the presentation by Dr. Greg Blaney, which focuses on this topic. I will add my own findings for a beginners list as follows:

 
1. Be Patient, Considerate, and Sympathetic to the receptionist and other support staff. They can make your visit better or worse if you show them the kindness and respect that ANY person deserves. Try and find/notice something you like about the person and compliment them on it. It could be their voice, the color or style of their hair or a piece of their clothing ("it looks good on you, NOT "it makes you look good"!) ... something you can be positive about and honest. If everyone could take a moment to do the same to those around them, the world would be a happier place ... and you would get better attention.

   Put yourself in THEIR shoes.
   They are often rushed, and may be working with a doctor or doctors who have poor organization skills, and, a sloppy and nearly incoherent dictation voice or writing. Patients they see will typically be preoccupied, irritable, have poor hearing, and express urgency, whether relevant or not. When the support staff inform the walk-ins of office rules they must abide by, yet have no authority in the making or changing of those rules, the prospective patient too often becomes abusive. Whether the patient drove for 4 hours to have a test which is cancelled now because an emergency came in earlier, or, the doctor is running 2 hours late with appointments, for whatever reason, it is NOT the responsibility of the support staff nor their creation. Take a time out!
   
   

2. Make the job of the doctor as EASY as you can by paying attention to HOW they work. Different doctors have different idiosyncrasies. You don't often have a choice of doctors, unless you are prepared to pay private fees. Most doctors do not want to read Reports, go to websites, see research. They don't get paid for it and if they find something beyond the status quo authority they must abide by, they can't use it anyway. That pushes them to feel guilty. The type of change you may be pushing on them may mean their leaving the career, or, jeopardizing it. It may mean putting their family and personal life last. Would you, after 10 years of sacrifice? Be honest!

   Don't PUSH.
   If you want a prescription for a drug to be used in a non-conventional way, ask the pharmacist which (by YOUR paying attention) the doctor respects, for a copy of the monograph. Take along a copy of the Protocol requiring it. LISTEN to the concerns of the doctor. Be prepared to go at THEIR pace, at least in the beginning. It may take several visits for them to get going with it. They may wish to try something else first to confirm that it won't be a danger for YOUR system. They may want to try a smaller dose initially, even though you KNOW such will do nothing. Yes, it is YOUR life. If you can't be patient, go to another doctor.
   
   

3. Do your own Research, or, use the best compiled set of Resources you can find, such as this one. IF you really have CFS-ME, you will have more time than the doctor to ferret it out and make sense of it, even if only at a rate of 10 minutes at a time. Make a note of the names of relevant doctors and protocols, relevant tests, and don't expect to remember anything when you get to their office. Don't hold them responsible for YOUR health. The Reality is that only YOU are responsible and will take the time and make the effort to get to Recovery. They can ASSIST you. They won't MAKE you recover.
   
   

4. Make a detailed and extensive symptom listing
   for YOURSELF.
   Then, plan to cover that list in the next TEN visits. Present and request 1 or 2 items per visit. If the doctor is acknowledging and accepting, perhaps present 2 or 3 in the next visit. Expect more and you will likely be making yourself prone to outbursts of anxiety, frustration, and anger ... when you find ALL of your submissions are denied, and nothing more than a general set of tests are offered. If you make a habit of being abusive and impatient, don't be surprised if the word gets around and those who COULD help you just don't have the time, or, are no longer taking new patients.
   
   

5. Prepare a list of specific TESTS that you would like the doctor to prescribe, if he has the authority under your system of health care, health insurance, or private financial obligation. Ask for no more than 2 tests at one time. Overloading the system or the doctor is likely to produce refusal. Many doctor's offices and clinics are now posting a notice encouraging patients to provide a list of symptoms and concerns to the doctor. As per above, plan to cover these in TEN visits, unless, you are paying privately and going to a specialist, such as a naturopath, or an opted out MD.
   
   

6. Use TACTFUL communication when describing your symptoms, your suspicions, the research you have collected, previous doctors, and, the system of regulations which sanction their employment in your country and your province or state. Doctors have studied and been interns for possibly 7 to 10 years of sacrifice before you met them. They deserve your Respect for making the effort. YOUR politicians created the regulations, or, sanctioned the rules set down by the Medical Associations in your jurisdiction. Exercise your vote, your pen, and your voice towards those who are responsible if you have any criticism. Find out and know HOW the system works. Don't ask the doctor to risk his employment and career. They have been imprinted to receive respect and authority.

   YOU telling Them what to do, is a loss.
   Sometimes, it is a loss you can't recover from.
   You either help the doctor grow to become someone who can assist you, or, you keep opening doors and asking others to slam them on you. Try a better way. Be assertive: direct about your stats and symptoms; polite about treatment received by you from others; calm about tests you would like taken; listening as to what the doctor believes is best; repetitive (next visit) about requests not undertaken; supportive with summaries and copies of research, protocols, drug monographs (with pleasure if only ONE is kept).
   
   

7. ALWAYS request a copy of any test results or specialist reports which have been completed and added to your office file. You can request it from the receptionist. Often, the office staff will require the authorization of the doctor to provide it to you. Whenever possible, do not leave the office without it. Question the false restrictions sometimes believed. WHY should YOUR test results be held secret from you? The only person or company who would want PROTECTION from you would be an incompetent one. Are they suggesting that they don't trust their own judgement or that of the lab? Or, is the government suggesting that the regulations they place on the doctors, they KNOW are irrelevant? YOU are the taxpayer. YOU are paying for the tests. YOU are OWED a copy of what you have paid for.
   
   

8. Ask for a Referral to a Specialist if your MD does not know how to diagnose you, or seems confused by your expressed concerns. I went to 5 doctors before being sent to a distant specialist. It took me 2 years to get a diagnosis of CFS-ME. My wife went to 6 doctors in 3 years to get the same form of referral and diagnosis. The only reason we had access to as many doctors is because we moved to different administration areas by living in temporary rentals. My wife was sent to 4 local specialists who affirmed that she was healthy, regardless of symptoms, possibly because she was able, with great preparation, to make it into their office. NONE of them considered multiple symptoms. They were competent on diagnosing acute single symptom ailments. This was BEYOND their defined scope of practice and training.

   We were responsibly assertive!
   We had been patient. We had specified our concerns. We made no threats. We were prepared to do exactly what we stated. We already had the name of another doctor to approach. In both of our cases, only our second last doctor was willing to send us to the super-specialist (400 miles distant & the acclaimed provincial expert). He did so because we told him we were going to find another doctor who would if he didn't. Don't expect this tactic to work for you! We got a diagnosis, yet no treatment answers. As it was, we had to move again, managed to get to see a doctor in the new locale after another YEAR, and were able to benefit from these Guidelines there. With the additional delays and time, I was also able to do review more research, more research was published, facilitators became experienced and available who could help, helpful supplements and herbal options came into being.
   
   

9. People change, they move, they retire, they die.
   Timing means knowing when to stay, move on, encourage change.
   We advanced towards our point of Recovery faster when we found doctors, dentists, facilitators, trainers, and therapists who would work WITH us. We were sometimes Spiritually Guided to persons who had the access and skill to assist us, yet, ultimately, CHOSE to stay in their cocoon and be safe, lazy, and inflexible.

   Enthusiastic and adventuresome, some, became appreciative of someone they could learn more about their discipline WITH. They were the self-confident persons who were passionate about their ability to assist others. They KNEW that we provided them with an option to improve and extend their skills. We maintained contact with and worked with them. Over time the combination grew their skills to be better than their competitors who were practicing much longer. Yet others worked with us for a time until they reached a dead end with the skills and awareness they had and had no humility to advance further. Then there were others whose skills were required in periodic ways, interspersed with other therapies or protocols, because that was what worked most effectively for us.

   Never avoid something because you did it and it had limits.
   "Been there, done that," simply means you have given up on real possibilities because YOU had the timing wrong! Grow up. An option is an option whenever it is RELEVANT. Just because it wasn't once, doesn't mean it never will be. Just because it WAS for a time, doesn't mean it can't be again, and again, just not continuously. If you have changed YOUR limits, it may again be a FURTHER benefit for another interim. In a few situations, a particular clinic may be your only economic option. You may have established that those practicing are of no benefit. Eventually, a new person may arrive who has the skills you can benefit from. Either the practice is expanding, someone has moved away, retired, or died. It happens.

4. Holistic Practitioners

Holistic Practitioners endeavor to use the best resources and practices of both standard medical and alternative health care communities. Each have their own focal point or areas of special interest, confidence, and application. These may narrow, expand, or remain the same over time. They may be shunned by BOTH the medical and alternative fellowships, or, honored and respected by selective practitioners from both. For medical requirements, they will usually have chosen to opt out of the Provincial or State health systems and their fees will not receive any subsidy/support by the state. You will be paying them a private fee, fully disclosed, and seeming to be high. What is NOT disclosed to you, is how much the state is spending on YOUR behalf when you go to your MD, an amount which is ultimately shared amongst all taxpayers, including yourself.

A List of Guidelines for optimum service and success from these facilitators will include ALL of those mentioned above for Medical Doctors, MD's. In addition, consider these:

• In a Private Pay relationship, understand that whatever tests you request, you pay the full price of. That also means that you may be able to skip the delays involved with running simpler tests run by an MD, which are irrelevant. It also means, that unless you, or your Holistic partner, are good at diagnosing, using muscle testing, or using Spiritual Guidance .. you may elect to run many costly tests which confirm little beyond what you do NOT have and do NOT have to treat. It is your money and your bill. Listen to their feedback. Reflect. Consider other options. Proceed with what you are comfortable with.

• A New Patient Questionnaire Kit with multiple forms is commonly provided to you to be completed BEFORE you see the Practitioner. The extent of this can range from several pages to several dozen pages. It is often helpful if you acquire copies of recent medical (blood, urine, stool) test results from your MD and copies of any recent X-rays, ultrasounds, CT scans, MRI's, or specialist reports completed for you within the government health care system. Some of these can be borrowed from hospitals or labs. You can have copies made of them, and return them to the provider.

• Your First Visit will likely be a lengthy interview in which your Questionnaire is reviewed, additional notes are recorded about your history and symptoms, any previous test results are noted, and a First Glance Assessment is, or may be, offered by the practitioner. They will/may also provide you with an overview of a Protocol they prefer to follow and the Basic Tests they expect you to undergo and pay for. First Visit charges should be suggested before you arrive and often range between $60 and $350 with the emphasis on the higher. This is often for an appointment time not expected to exceed 60 to 90 minutes. You may be able to request a longer time for additional payment.
  
  

• How structured and dynamic your Holistic Practitioner is can usually be determined in the first visit. This means: "Will they work WITH you, or ON you?" If they will work WITH you, they will be flexible in listening to YOUR requests of what they do that they can do. You may be familiar enough with their practice, and confident enough from your own awareness, to request that they use certain of their offered therapies first, before their in-house protocol, and run a specific series of tests from specific labs that you have confidence in.

  IF you have done your research, you may not want to spend $3000 on 8 tests that you are sceptical of until you have received the results of 5 tests costing $1500. Some of what you have selected will usually include some of what they prefer. IF, they will NOT proceed unless you run THEIR tests in THEIR labs, YOU are best to carefully consider if THEY are WHO you want to work with. Can you afford the resources to go a few more steps before deciding to STAY or GO? Sometimes, it is better to pay $270, and leave, rather than $3000 and leave.
  
  

• What are the Real Boundaries
  of your Holistic Practitioner?
  Not as easy a question to answer as you may think.
  I went to a Holistic Practitioner who diagnosed in 30 minutes that I had mercury poisoning from dental mercury amalgams, from my symptoms and energetic testing. He wrote a Prescription for a dentist to remove my mercury fixtures and replace them with plastic or other materials. I went to a local, and the major, Province of Ontario dental college, at the University of Toronto in Ontario, Canada, .. free clinic. The university professor supervising the attending student was very aggressive and confident in his assessment:

  • This Professor/Dentist had been teaching student dentists for 15 years and believed he knew his stuff.

  • Medical Doctors (MD's) have no LEGAL jurisdiction for diagnosing, treating, or prescribing anything in the Oral cavity ... at least within any Province in Canada. The prescription my Holistic doctor had written could have resulted in his being legally charged and he might have lost his MD license, if, I had pushed his authority in front of this dentist.

  • The professor expert said that he had NEVER heard of anyone getting mercury poisoning from dental amalgams and there was no research to support such. Dental mercury amalgams were entirely safe! There was a medical-dental university research library upstairs and he invited me to go and see for myself that there was no research supporting such absurd declarations. I DID, after this appointment, and found otherwise.

  • IF I had mercury poisoning, he reasoned, it could only be from my eating too much canned tuna. That was his asserted conclusion. Yet the tuna I was eating was from young tuna (low biological burden), caught in Pacific waters off Canada (low toxicity source), and many other people were eating as large a quantity without ANY of the symptoms I was having.

  • I didn't have any of my amalgams removed by an institution which TEACHES the newest, best, and brightest new dentists ... that what the rest of the world recognizes as a legally restricted toxic dental fixture .. is perfectly acceptable and deemed safe in North America!

  Just because your Holistic Practitioner advises you of something, and is correct, and it must be administered by other state and association sanctioned health care practitioners, does not mean you will easily get someone to act on such an option (although, in 2009, it is much more likely that you CAN find someone to listen).

Holistic Practitioners can offer you more options than an MD. They can view you from a broader perspective and awareness and with personally proven diagnostic skills. The caution is still YOUR responsibility. While most MD's can be depended upon to respond in fairly uniform manner, due to their legal and institutional restrictions, Holistic MD's can have quite different individualized strengths, weaknesses, and perspectives. It is easy to find an average MD. It is difficult to find an average Holistic MD. Often, they are either Relevant for you, or, Irrelevant.

5. Alternative Facilitators

Alternative Facilitators endeavor to use the best resources and practices of non-medical health care communities. Their focal point or areas of special interest, confidence, and application are to reject the use of pharmaceuticals, surgery, antibiotics and genetically altered lifeforms, and, radiation burning -- in favor of herbs, homeopathics, energetics, physical manipulation, detoxification. They are shunned by the medical fellowship, and, seldom honored and respected by selective MD's. You will be paying them a private fee, fully disclosed, and seeming to be high. What is NOT disclosed to you, is how much the state is spending on YOUR behalf when you go to your MD, an amount which is ultimately shared amongst all taxpayers, including yourself.

A List of Guidelines for optimum service and success from these facilitators will include many of those mentioned above for Medical Doctors, MD's. In addition, consider these:

• In this Private Pay relationship, understand that whatever tests you request, only non-medical ones may be available. This may mandate your returning to an MD for some tests. Alternative health provider diagnostic methods are often considerably MORE accurate than medical tests, or, LESS accurate. The degree of success they have with their clients is often a valid indicator, though not often available due to confidentiality principles. It also means, that unless you, or your Alternative partner, are good at diagnosing, using muscle testing, or using Spiritual Guidance .. you may elect to have many costly therapy sessions which result in limited health enhancement, or, prove difficult to evaluate. It is your money and your bill. Listen to their feedback. Reflect. Consider other options. Proceed with what you are comfortable with.
  
  

• A New Patient Questionnaire is commonly provided to you to be completed BEFORE you see the Alternative Facilitator. The extent of this is often several pages. It is NOT often helpful if you acquire copies of recent medical (blood, urine, stool) test results from your MD and copies of any recent X-rays, ultrasounds, CT scans, MRI's, or specialist reports completed for you within the government health care system.
  
  

• Your First Visit will likely be an interview and therapy session introduction. Notes are recorded about your history and symptoms, and, a First Glance Assessment is often offered by the practitioner. They may also provide you with an overview of a session frequency and minimum number they expect to follow. First Visit charges should be suggested before you arrive and often range between $60 and $150. This is often for an appointment time not expected to exceed 45 to 90 minutes. You may be able to request a longer time for additional payment.
  
  

• How structured and dynamic your Alternative Facilitator is can usually be determined in the first visit. This means: "Will they work WITH you, or ON you?" If they will work WITH you, they will be flexible in listening to YOUR requests of what they do that they can do. You may be familiar enough with their modality, and confident enough from your own awareness, to request that they use certain parts or regimes of their offered therapy first, before their in-house routine.
  
  

  IF you have done your research, you will not want to spend $1500 on 8 therapy sessions that you are sceptical of until you have evaluated the results of 3 sessions costing $500. YOU are best to carefully consider if THEY are WHO you want to work with. Can you afford the resources to go a few more steps before deciding to STAY or GO? Sometimes, it is better to pay $70, and leave, rather than $1500 and leave.
  
  

• What are the Real Boundaries
  of your Alternative Facilitator?
  Not as easy a question to answer as you may think.
  The BEST alternative facilitators know when it is better for you to go to an MD or other facilitator before beginning with their modality, or, before continuing with their modality. An alternative practitioner who expects you to come to them for ALL of your health care requirements and assistance, is often too naive and proud of their abilities, too much an adversary to medical practice benefits, and too regimented to treat you as the unique individual you are and not as just another Client.

Alternative Facilitators can offer you more options than an MD. They can view you from a broader perspective and awareness and with personally proven diagnostic skills. The caution is still YOUR responsibility. While most MD's can be depended upon to respond in fairly uniform manner, due to their legal and institutional restrictions, Alternative Facilitators can have quite different individualized strengths, weaknesses, and perspectives. It is easy to find an average MD. It is as easy as difficult to find an average Alternative Facilitator. Often, they are either Relevant for you, or, Irrelevant.

6. Supplements: All-in-One

Nothing remains the same.
You are not always the same age. You do not always have the same organ and muscle strengths from year to year. You tend to have experienced more viral, bacterial, fungal, and other parasitic encounters as you grow older. You tend to acquire more energy blocks and build your total as you experience more traumatic events and exposures. Any imprinted behaviors you have are likely to become stronger and more automatic, the more often you rely on them. The environment you live in will impact you differently from one home and workplace to another. Even in the same locations, over durations, there will be a change in the number and intensity of pollution sources. Even the quality of your food supply will change, better, worse, or better for some and worse for others. EACH of these variations will impact the stress load on your body. As your stress loads change, even by the hour, the optimum nutritional supplementation for YOU, will change.

One for all!
This is the promise of All-in-One, or One-a-Day supplements.
Is it realistic to expect that your life is at a standstill?
Or, that the rest of the world is? What is true this year may not be next year. These supplements are made from resources available in specific political and industrial environments. In 2009, it is well known that some produce from Mexico has high levels of heavy metal toxins and toxic chemicals from high use levels of chemical fertilizers and mercury based pesticides and fungicides. It is also known that in much of mainland China, foodstuffs are also exposed to these dangers and that few regulations are checked or enforced. There may be more danger in some of your supplements, than benefits.

Proportions of some supplements
can be antagonistic to others.
It is alarmingly regular that equal amounts of all B vitamins are added to some supplement combinations. It is also well known that if such supplements are not combined in specific variations, they defeat one another. Too much zinc can produce symptoms of too little. The same is true of vitamin C. Why? Because if you take too much, your body signals "Overload" and dumps all of what you have taken, PLUS, your reserve! Some supplements are best taken WITH food. Others are best taken AWAY FROM food. Why? Because if taken WITH food, there may be a better digestive dynamic for their assimilation. And, if taken AWAY FROM food, they may not be neutralized or minimized by the presence of the food nutrients or pH. What is in your All-in-One?

Profit and competition, unfortunately, often twist the principles of competitors and shareholders to allow for the substitution of cheaper and inferior ingredients. It happens in health food stores constantly. An passionate and health oriented innovator creates a new product. Its brand name becomes popular through customer acceptance, the articles of respected and enthusiastic health care workers, and, attractive marketing and efficient distribution. After a number of years of 60 to 80 hour weeks and a stringent lifestyle, the originator agrees to sell the business. The new company keeps the brand name and marketing and administrative formalities. Yet, the new owners decide to make the product "better" and more profitable, by, changing the recipe. Toxic oils and compounds are substituted for the originals to save costs.

7. Supplements: Herbs

Herbs are our term for powerful vegetation.
These are plants which we have found to have medicinal and/or health enhancing influences. In some uses of the term, it also refers to plants which have powerful destructive influences, capable of bringing poisoning, and death. Every culture has plants which they use frequently, in small amounts, with their food or drink. These are called, Spices. The manner in which herbs are grown, harvested, preserved and used each determines the strength of the supplement as well as whether it has been contaminated and actually made harmful. In addition, there are some herb names which apply to a whole family of herbs, each with different properties, not only to one.
Quality is important.

Herbs can provide great benefits.
They can gradually strengthen our lifesystem through an encouraging and boosting process which proves long term influence. An ingredient which is too powerful, such as many pharmaceuticals, may have a dramatic immediate effect, yet may leave our lifesystem weaker and more prone to a redevelopment of the symptoms we were seeking to banish. Too strong -- may turn OFF, or die off, some of our immune processes and disrupt some neurotransmitters and endocrine functions. In too frequent instances, they may encourage our Reptilian Structure to set new thresholds for these substances, typically LOWER thresholds. Herbs are much safer in that such physical harmony devastation rarely happens from their use. Considerable ignorance, pride, and excess is usually required to turn a beneficial herb into a hazard.
Quantity is important.

Obtaining a balanced quantity for one's health is a challenge.
That is, the hourly requirements of your body for nutrients is constantly changing. They also change faster when we are physically or mentally active than when we are at rest or in a routine. We can best determine what these levels are by being aware of a wide range of herbs and having a quality supply of those which are best indicated for us as a home resource. Next, we are best served by developing skills to accurately determine which, and what quantity is best for us at any time. Spiritual Guidance is the best source of this intelligence. Proficient muscle testing is a second means to testing. If you are unable or unwilling to develop either of these skills, herbalists, naturopaths, and homeopaths receive training to assist in this discernment.
Selection is important.

Mixing herbs together is similar to any other mixture.
The SUM of the ingredients may be more powerful than each of the components taken separately, may be diminished in effectiveness, may become destructive in influence, may become impotent in effect, or, may produce erratic, confusing, and unstable results. This also includes non-herbal influences that can impact the whole. The ingredients of your diet, the kinds and levels of your stresses, the environmental air and water toxins you are exposed to, your progression through any personal hormonal cycles .. including sleep and menstrual ones, and, your attitude and belief emotional inputs can all impact the effectiveness, or lack of, of herbs, spices, and hormonal supports.
Combinations are important.

8. Supplements: Hormones

You may be taking hormone supplements and not even know it!
How important is this? If you have CFS-ME, what you eat, what you use as supplements, and what you take as a prescription drug CAN make you more ill, delay your recovery time, and depress or eliminate some hormone dependent bodily functions. Really? Yes, YOUR decisions and actions may be making you more ill. Not just that. The harder you try to get better, the sicker you may become. Here are a FEW reasons why supplemental hormones can raise symptoms of illness to greater levels of influence.

• pancreas failure leading to erratic sugar balance, shock.
• depression of assimilation-excretion encouraging autointoxication.
• heart hyperactivity encouraging failure, anger, violence.
• adrenal weakness leading to fatigue & brain fog.
• thyroid instability .. massive emotional/physical changes.

There are many MORE influences.
If you have no care about the above, the others really are not important, to you. Too much of any hormone in your system can unbalance it and throw your Reptilian Structure into Confusion, Acting Out, Panic, or, Fire Control. Don't blame IT for messing up YOUR life. If it does, on these accounts, it is because YOU are an uncaring, ignorant, proud, selfish, .... That is what IT would say if IT could. Let's take a look at what you may be inviting, or even fueling.

Confusion:
This is when one part of your motivation-attitude-patterns identity is telling your Reptilian Structure to turn up the heat while another identity part is telling IT to turn the heat down. Your Ego may want praise for your eating the leftover piece of pie, and, your SuperEgo is fearful of the shame, ridicule, and self-weakness IT will likely receive on YOUR behalf. A great amount of energy may be expressed through anxiety, distraction, denial, ... as if, you are holding the brakes hard ON with your vehicle, while equally pressing hard ON the brake pedal. Energy, time, participation, joy, reverence, ... are all being wasted and/or lost.

Acting Out:
You just MUST get something happening!
You WANT something. You DEMAND it.
You are Demanding, and THEY are not moving!
Participation is lowered a notch to anger and threats.
Either others are Rejecting YOU, or, you Reject THEM.
Soon, you are a person who needs Help, but, you're not getting any!

Panic:
Wants turn into NEEDS.
It may not be a widely held perception.
Heightened hormone levels can change perceptions.
Too much libido and you become a lust driven tyrant.
Your regular limits of discernment disappear.
Even ugly strangers begin to morph into stunning beauties.
You are at once both in awe, and, on the verge of attack.
Or, it may be the opposite response ....

Fire Control:
Very Bad Scene!
This is when IT looks at your (specific hormone) gauge and reacts AS IF the gauge is reading in the Red danger zone, and, continuing to free fall. Time to shut this circuit down. That means that your Reptilian Structure starts changing threshold assimilation and retention limits. It may mean that you become infertile and remain so for months, even years! It could mean that you have difficulties getting a solid sleep, or, enough sleep. You may begin to lose your ability to think and communicate. There are MANY supplements and herbs which can be used recklessly. If you don't know what YOUR optimal daily changing intake level is, you could be better off not taking it.

Increasing your awareness of hormone sources.
First, read this page on Hormones.
Second, review this page of the Sources of Hormones
Third, consider that ANYTHING which pregnant women are cautioned to avoid, may be too much for YOU.

Fourth, any mood altering supplement, CAN be overdosed on.
This includes anti-depressants, pain medication, sleep aids, stimulants, appetite suppressants, ....

Five, Find someone who can Accurately muscle test you or obtain Accurate Spiritual Guidance, for YOU, and have them confirm what is indicated as Needed by YOUR lifesystem, and in what dosages. Confirm these supplements and their ideal-for-you dosages, often.

It IS a Choice YOU can make.
How do YOU want to be Remembered?

9. Supplements: Minerals

You may be taking mineral supplements and not even know it!
How important is this? If you have CFS-ME, what you eat, what you use as supplements, and what you take as a prescription drug CAN make you more ill, delay your recovery time, and depress or eliminate some hormone dependent bodily functions. Really? Yes, YOUR decisions and actions may be making you more ill. Not just that. The harder you try to get better, the sicker you may become. Here are a FEW reasons why supplemental hormones can raise symptoms of illness to greater levels of influence.

• increasing bone fragility, falls, breakages.
• depression of immunity, encouraging autotoxification.
• heart reduced activity encouraging failure and inactivity.
• skin integrity lost to rashes, blemishes, slow healing.
• thyroid instability .. massive emotional/physical changes.

There are many MORE influences.
If you have no care about the above, the others really are not important, to you. Too much of any hormone in your system can unbalance it and throw your Reptilian Structure into Confusion, Acting Out, Panic, or, Fire Control. Don't blame IT for messing up YOUR life. If it does, on these accounts, it is because YOU are an uncaring, ignorant, proud, selfish, .... That is what IT would say if IT could. Let's take a look at what you may be inviting, or even fueling.

Calcium and Magnesium regulate the sympathetic nervous system (SNS) which controls our "fight or flight" reaction.

SNS is stimulated by calcium, and inhibited by magnesium.
Imbalance causes SNS dominance, an uptight nervous, jittery person.
Magnesium will calm you down and bring back your sunny personality.
For many reasons, persons with CFS-ME often require LESS calcium and MORE Magnesium.

Potassium and Sodium regulate the parasympathetic nervous system (PSNS), which controls our "rest & digest" reaction.

PSNS is stimulated by potassium, and inhibited by sodium.
Imbalance causes PSNS dominance (quite rare) a lethargic, tired, slow moving person.
Supplementing potassium will revive you out of the evening fatigue.
MORE potassium can also assist those with CFS-ME.
Always be sure to test for YOUR best levels.

Confusion:
This is when one part of your motivation-attitude-patterns identity is telling your Reptilian Structure to turn up the heat while another identity part is telling IT to turn the heat down. Your Ego may want praise for your eating the leftover piece of pie, and, your SuperEgo is fearful of the shame, ridicule, and self-weakness IT will likely receive on YOUR behalf. A great amount of energy may be expressed through anxiety, distraction, denial, ... as if, you are holding the brakes hard ON with your vehicle, while equally pressing hard ON the brake pedal. Energy, time, participation, joy, reverence, ... are all being wasted and/or lost.

Acting Out:
You just MUST get something happening!
You WANT something. You DEMAND it.
You are Demanding, and THEY are not moving!
Participation is lowered a notch to anger and threats.
Either others are Rejecting YOU, or, you Reject THEM.
Soon, you are a person who needs Help, but, you're not getting any!

Panic:
Wants turn into NEEDS.
It may not be a widely held perception.
Heightened hormone levels can change perceptions.
Too much libido and you become a lust driven tyrant.
Your regular limits of discernment disappear.
Even ugly strangers begin to morph into stunning beauties.
You are at once both in awe, and, on the verge of attack.
Or, it may be the opposite response ....

Fire Control:
Very Bad Scene!
This is when IT looks at your (specific hormone) gauge and reacts AS IF the gauge is reading in the Red danger zone, and, continuing to free fall. Time to shut this circuit down. That means that your Reptilian Structure starts changing threshold assimilation and retention limits. You could end up with immune weaknesses, slow healing, rashes, and a depressed libido .. because you are taking too much Zinc! There are MANY supplements which can be used recklessly. If you don't know what YOUR optimal daily changing intake level is, you could be better off not taking it.

Learn more about minerals at:
http://www.life-enthusiast.com/index/Education/Minerals

Second, review this page of the Sources of Hormones

Third, consider that ANYTHING which pregnant women are cautioned to avoid, may be too much for YOU.

Fourth, any mood altering supplement, CAN be overdosed on.
This includes anti-depressants, pain medication, sleep aids, stimulants, appetite suppressants, ....

Five, Find someone who can Accurately muscle test you or obtain Accurate Spiritual Guidance, for YOU, and have them confirm what is indicated as Needed by YOUR lifesystem, and in what dosages. Confirm these supplements and their ideal-for-you dosages, often.

It IS a Choice YOU can make.
How do YOU want to be Remembered?

10. Supplements: Spices

You may be using Spices
and not be aware of their dangers!
How important is this? If you have CFS-ME, what you eat CAN make you more ill, delay your recovery time, and depress or eliminate some assimilation dependent bodily functions. Really? Yes, YOUR decisions and actions may be making you more ill. Not just that. The harder you try to get better, the sicker you may become. Here are a FEW reasons why Spices can raise symptoms of illness to greater levels of influence.

• inflammation of the intestines.
• fluid and nutrient loss through diarrhea.
• excessive detoxing leading to fatigue & brain fog.
• emotional instability from hypersensitivity.
• chemical toxicity through the use of synthetic sugars.
• chemical toxicity through the use of synthetic MSG.

There are many MORE influences.
If you have no care about the above, the others really are not important, to you. Too much of any spice in your system can unbalance it and throw your Reptilian Structure into Confusion, Acting Out, Panic, or, Fire Control. Don't blame IT for messing up YOUR life. If it does, on these accounts, it is because YOU are an uncaring, ignorant, proud, selfish, .... That is what IT would say if IT could. Let's take a look at what you may be inviting, or even fueling.

Confusion:
This is when one part of your motivation-attitude-patterns identity is telling your Reptilian Structure to drink more milk while another identity part is telling IT to not forget the hot curry sauce. Your Ego may want praise for your drinking the highly advertised milk, and, your SuperEgo is fearful of the shame, ridicule, and self-weakness IT will likely receive on YOUR behalf, if you go against your cultural heritage of curried food dishes.

A great amount of energy may be expressed through anxiety, distraction, denial, ... as if, you are expecting that your intestines are going to digest the milk, ON, while you are actively killing off the healthy bacteria you require to digest it. The result is autotoxicity, indigestion, and poor assimilation. Energy, time, participation, joy, reverence, ... are all being wasted and/or lost.
Time to listen to your body.

Acting Out:
You just MUST get something happening!
You WANT something. You DEMAND it.
You are Demanding, and others are saying NO!
In anger you take what you want. They are stupid.
Now you are running to the bathroom and have a headache.
This Time you could use help,
but you have already rejected it!

Panic:
Wants turn into NEEDS.
It may not be a widely held understanding.
Powerful spice levels can change reactions.
Too much of anything and you can become hypersensitive.
Formerly acceptable levels can change into dangerous ones.
The favorite you loved now becomes the terror you fear.
You are at once both in awe, and, on the verge of repulsion.
Or, it may be the opposite response ....

Fire Control:
Very Bad Scene!
This is when IT looks at your (spice) gauge and reacts AS IF the gauge is reading in the Red danger zone, and, continuing to free fall. Time to shut this circuit down. That means that your Reptilian Structure starts changing threshold assimilation and retention limits. It may mean that it simply refuses the previously acceptable spice. You would not listen. Now, your Reptilian Structure has your CONSCIOUS attention. You were already having symptoms of illness. This may not have been the best Time to recklessly add Spices to the mix. All that was necessary was to ASK your Reptilian Structure or Spiritual Guidance.
There will be another Time.
Will you still have the Choice?

Increasing your awareness of spice sources.
First, read any spice reference that outlines health influences.
Second, review this page of the Sources of Hormones
Third, consider that spices have been long used as anti-parasitics.
Fourth, spices have long been used to alter moods.
Five, Find someone who can Accurately muscle test you or obtain Accurate Spiritual Guidance, for YOU, and have them confirm what is indicated as Needed by YOUR lifesystem, and in what amounts and combinations. Confirm these supplements and their ideal-for-you recipes, often.

It IS a Choice YOU can make.
How do YOU want to be Remembered?
It is the Time to choose how you feel and express yourself.

You may be taking badly proportioned
vitamin supplements!
How important is this? If you have CFS-ME, what you eat, what you use as supplements, and what you take as a prescription drug CAN make you more ill, delay your recovery time, and depress or eliminate some vitamin dependent bodily functions. Really? Yes, YOUR decisions and actions may be making you more ill. Not just that. The harder you try to get better, the sicker you may become. Here are a FEW reasons why supplemental vitamins can raise symptoms of illness to greater levels of influence.

• vitamin A excess possibilities have been long defined.
• vitamin B12 and folic acid work in harmony, or, destructively.
• vitamin C excess can result in deficiency through dumping.
• vitamin D together with heavy metal toxicity can devastate.
• B vitamins in inordinate ratios prevent assimilation.

There are many MORE influences.
If you have no care about the above, the others really are not important, to you. Too much, or too little, of any vitamin in your system can unbalance it and throw your Reptilian Structure into Confusion, Acting Out, Panic, or, Fire Control. Don't blame IT for messing up YOUR life. If it does, on these accounts, it is because YOU are an uncaring, ignorant, proud, selfish, .... That is what IT would say if IT could. Let's take a look at what you may be inviting, or even fueling.

Confusion:
This is when one part of your motivation-attitude-patterns identity is telling your Reptilian Structure to add more vitamin spice to the broth while another identity part is telling IT to leave out the spice altogether. Your Ego may want praise for your taking the huge multivitamin, and, your SuperEgo is fearful of the shame, ridicule, and self-weakness IT will likely receive on YOUR behalf from your doctor. A great amount of energy may be expressed through anxiety, distraction, denial, ... as if, you are piling the food ON your plate, and then just looking at it. Energy, time, participation, joy, reverence, ... are all being wasted and/or lost.
The clock is ticking, but you are not moving!

Acting Out:
You just MUST get something happening!
You WANT something. You DEMAND it.
You are Demanding, and THEY are not moving!
Why is that? Are they deaf? Don't they care?
Participation is lowered a notch, to anger and threats.
Either others are Rejecting YOU, or, you Reject THEM.
Soon, you are a person who needs Help, but, you're not getting any!

Panic:
Wants turn into NEEDS.
It may not be a widely held perception.
Heightened vitamin requirements can change perceptions.
Illnesses and heavy metal toxicities can soak up vitamins.
Recommended daily amounts for healthy persons don't apply.
Yet this is all that your medical experts will entertain.
In fact, many continue to assert that foods supply enough.
Your body is starving, and you are making excuses!

Fire Control:
Very Bad Scene!
This is when IT looks at your (specific vitamin) gauge and reacts AS IF the gauge is reading in the Red danger zone, and, continuing to rise, or, fall. Time to shut this circuit down. That means that your Reptilian Structure starts changing threshold assimilation and retention limits. It may mean that it simply dumps all of your current load of Vitamin C, and, your RESERVES. It is possible that you could end up with diarrhea, scurvy, and die, from taking too much Vitamin C! Or, you could end up with nerve damage from taking too much vitamin B6! If you are not taking the botanically appropriate ratios of B vitamins, your Reptilian Structure can get lost in the anarchy and just start dumping all of some of them. If you don't know what YOUR optimal daily changing intake level is, you could be better off not taking it.

Increasing your awareness of vitamin sources.
First, read any health reference on Vitamins.
Second, review Sources of Vitamins in foods.
Third, compare ratios of B vitamins in different preparations.
Fourth, oil suspended supplements, CAN be overdosed on.
Five, find someone who can Accurately muscle test you or obtain Accurate Spiritual Guidance, for YOU, and have them confirm what is indicated as Needed by YOUR lifesystem, and in what dosages. Confirm these supplements and their ideal-for-you dosages, often.

It IS a Choice YOU can make.
How do YOU want to be Remembered?
It is the Time to choose how you feel and express yourself.

12. Housing: attached/row and apartments.

When you build your housing and when you move away from rental housing, there are usually some key influences. These can ALL influence how ill you become and how quickly, or if, you Recover. If your health, relationships, income, freedom, and participation are important to your quality of life, you could benefit from a greater awareness of the following.

1. Security: Keeping out pests.
2. Stability: Staying predictable.
3. Protection: from weather extremes.
4. Economical: within one's means.
5. Supportive: makes life better.
6. Attractive: liking to be near.
7. Comfortable: positive stressors.
8. Low maintenance: no surprises.

Security: Keeping out pests.

Pests can take many forms and each can encourage you to become weaker and sicker. Part of the equation is that we can attract, invite, and sustain pests in our environment. The FORM is unimportant. There are bacteria, fungi, virus, insects, animals and people who can bring positive influences to our health. This is the cultural downfall of our attachment to FORM. We are conditioned early to EXPECT and Assume that Form is a good indicator of worth. This is not only inaccurate. It is deceptive and we sometimes enable such perceptions to manipulate us. We are seldom manipulated by THEM. We are the ones who ENABLE ourselves into being manipulated. Often, this is OUR shortcut to discernment because we are too lazy or rush ourselves too much, to take the time and spend the energy to evaluate what we are committing to. What and Who are we committing our Time to?

We commit to whatever we participate in by routine.
If we allow our surroundings to become dirty, we are committing to NOT cleaning. If we keep our music loud constantly, we are committing to Denial, and often to addictions to ward off chronic depressiveness. When we suggest that our life is controlled by fate, imprinting, energy blocks, politics, employers, or, OTHERS, we adopt a Victim persona. When we make persistent efforts towards Recovery, we present and project ourselves as Survivors. Pests, of all forms, choose Victims, by preference, rather than Survivors. Why battle with someone who cares when you have others who just invite you to take from them?
Time to become a Survivor.

Survivors set limits to keep Pests out.
They clean up their food crumbs, wash the preparation countertops, launder their clothing and linen, sweep away the dirt, and keep their doors and windows closed against the entry of dust on windy days and water on rainy days. If you don't want dust mites, harmful bacteria and fungi, food poisoning, flu viruses, and other health weakening pests (including depressive humans), you are advised to screen your windows and phone calls, patch the holes in your walls, floors, and computer communications, and, wash away the accumulated dirt and destructive attitudes. Survivors do not have Time to waste.

Stability: Staying predictable.

A living space that changes constantly requires constant adjustment to live in. The alarm malfunctions and goes off at a different time each morning, or, not at all. The range elements only work on several of their many settings, and not the same one's when we use them. We go to get a food from the cupboard and find that it has been used up and not replaced or its absence mentioned. We come home to rest and find a noisy party in progress. Either we prepare food for ourselves and others only to find no one arrive, or, we arrive home fatigued to find no food prepared. With CFS-ME, one requires a predictable living space. Time is not available for needless changes.

Searching for and filling one's basic and immediate needs for oneself is a huge energy absorber for those with CFS-ME. What is routinely completed or adjusted to with full alertness becomes a mountain climbing challenge for someone with brain fog and fatigue. When others fail to understand this and one must attempt to explain it, yet again, to them, more energy loss flows into the fatigue well. Going without will encourage physical depression .. which will enable mental depression. Finding a balance is critical, and, difficult. Sometimes it is better to be more of the time by oneself and avoid the energy demands of miscommunication frustrations. Often, it is a matter of survival to have others who can assist with cleaning, food preparation, and trips to the market. Better time together may mean more time alone.

Setting organizational rules and asking others to abide by them in YOUR space is often a difficult action in a modern society of many options, immature and uninformed people, and shared spaces. It is the little irregularities which can become huge frustrations for the person with CFS-ME. At the same time, SOME changes and frustrations can be constructive in keeping one's brain active and growing, rather than shrinking in size and ability. I frequently worked at researching, software coding, and getting accurate Spiritual Guidance during my CFS-ME and Recovery. These were often huge challenges for someone with constant fatigue AND brain fog. Without the effort, I oozed away to death, with my brain and body shutting down a little more each day. Activity Time doesn't have to be easy time.

Protection: from weather extremes.

Best is a warm surrounding which is dry.
If the roof and ceiling leak, a faucet runs continuously, rain comes through a broken window, and the walls are building a mildew covering ... we may be at more of a health risk than in a tent or motorhome. Our Reptilian Structure is genetically responsible for attempting to maintain an internal environment for us which is free of extremes, except at brief extreme times. ITS extremes are struggling to stay alive during biological attack, a critical injury, running to get away from a predator, attacking to maintain one's freedom, or, trying to keep energy levels balanced without adequate nutrition and assimilation.
It's Time to assess WHY your Reptilian Structure is struggling.

Weather extremes trigger adrenal urgency hormones.
A dwelling which is too hot, much of the time in temperature or conflict is going to drain away a lot of "cooling" energy. The same is true of an environment which is too cold in temperature or emotion. Our Reptilian Structure is going to do ITS best to raise that temperature and our participation. Either way, there will be a strain on our Thyroid temperature regulation center as well as on our Liver energy release centers. If one has CFS-ME, these centers are likely to already be under constant excessive demand. If we knowingly ADD to these demands, we are increasing our weakness to the further invasion of parasites and the further stockpiling of toxins in our cells.
Time to check our temperature swings.

Economical: within one's means.

"Beyond one's means" means always having to get more just to stay in the same place. It is like running on the spot. A lot of energy goes in. No additional pleasure comes back. It is like working an extra job, for free. For persons with CFS-ME, their Reptilian Structure is often running on the spot. It started to run with the first major health concern. When it was getting ready to take a breather, a second major dis-ease came in the door. Then a third, and more. Now, it just runs as if that is "normal". That does not leave much energy for the physical interactive elements of our Ego and SuperEgo to work with. Considering that pre-CFS-ME they had the rule and likely had little encouragement to even recognize, respect, or encourage our Reptilian Structure, NOW, is an extreme frustration for them. Times have changed. What THEY considered the Slave, now rules over them!

Buying the best residence with what we can just barely afford NOW is a highly risky choice. It assumes that our income can only continue to rise. This has been a potential reality for perhaps a decade at a time during 1950 to 1990. Repeatedly, such Growth economic times would be bordered by economic recessions before and after. As humans, we so often think of the Recent and forget the Past. We forget what we don't like and what we hope we have surpassed. What history continues to demonstrate is that we haven't passed anything! We have simply made excuses for our weaknesses and wrongs and hedged our bets. We fail to take responsibility and diplomatically say we are being positive, or, doing good business. We invite Times (history) to repeat, and, it does. It will only change when we do.

There are costs to ownership of a residence.
First time buyers can be in denial of these.
After that, we are simply ignoring the facts to get what we WANT.
And why do we want more than is financially reasonable and timely?
Does what we have indicate to us and others the level of success we NEED to feel about ourselves and we want others to acknowledge of us? Does it indicate our Need to affiliate ourselves with and see ourselves as part of an economic group which CAN afford this standard of living? If indeed these are unquestioned needs, they are driving us, and owning us, rather than we enjoying them. The costs can present chronic anxiety, fear, and depression within us. ALL of these drain energy away. With CFS-ME, no one can afford this form of energy drain.
Time to MOVE?

Supportive: makes life better.

Anyone with a chronic illness or Package of chronic illnesses will cope better and recover faster if they have a residence which makes THEIR life easier and more enjoyable. Being jolted awake with the dramatic opening of drapes or blinds to bright light, screaming loud music, the clanging of pots and pans, voices shouting at each other, a power lawn mower thundering by our window, phones ringing, tools banging, or, televisions/DVD players proclaiming ... is an alarm for the Reptilian Structure of someone with CFS-ME. Yes, you, before CFS-ME, and the healthier persons around you may hardly have noticed these things. That Time is Past. What was all background, is now in YOUR face. Now, they are INVASIONS that compete with your immune system.

Support includes a recognition of the individuality of oneself. This goes beyond the general attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors of the person we WERE. We are now in the territory of someone we ARE! Many of the people we know, sometimes even spouses, prefer to remember us how we Were and to expect us to contribute as we did in the Past. When this is not possible, they are apprehensive and wonder if we are choosing to be "difficult", if we still "love" them, if we are "insane"? For the patient, many want to have an idea of How Long. Sick people, they have experienced and been told, recover within generally specific periods of time. Colds, flu, chicken pox, measles, mumps, indigestion, cuts, bruises, infections ... all have their somewhat predictable durations. And, they are all easily defined and confirmed. CFS-ME is not a one shot setback.

How can others provide Support for an enigma.
CFS-ME has been reported more often in neighborhoods with access to good housing, clean running water and relative high standards of sanitation seldom experienced in urban environments before the 1950's, than in less structured health care environments. It seems to influence those, who are more often than the general population, higher in education, and, more active in their career progression. Such persons are frequently more aggressive, determined, and self-directed than the norm. Such persons often appear strong in health and personality. How can they be CONSTANTLY ill? How can you help such a person when many have never asked for help or feel demeaned to now request it? The Truth is, that in the NOW, many of the housekeeping chores gladly done in the Past, become anxieties in the Present, because, they are Not getting DONE!

Support is offering.
It isn't WHAT you offer that is important so much as HOW you offer.
This excludes TELLING someone. You are not best to impose your efforts on a person with CFS-ME. You are best not to impose YOUR expectations and attitudes, however well intentioned, on someone with CFS-ME. Support can be one of trading favors. This is where you mention that you would like to do the person's laundry so that you can spend more time talking to THEM. If they do LESS, they will have MORE energy left in their reserve. That will equal more QUALITY time you can spend with THEM and they can spend with YOU. No one has quality time with a person who has constant Fatigue. You can break the constancy by removing some of the energy drains the person has. Then, they will be at THEIR best, and you may be tired enough to ride along at THEIR high for a time. The Quality time they have may be short, yet it is better than none. Best for All.

Attractive: liking to be near.
For a person with CFS-ME, one's residence is their most full time environment.

Our residence should be something we identify with and brings us Joy. If it is a constant source of problems and frustrations, that is seldom transmutable into joy. If one has CFS-ME, buying a new or recently new house will largely be a fool's gold. You will likely buy it and then find that a lack of or reduced income translates into not being able to pay the expenses. This leaves renovated and older structures. Older structures are likely to have been built when the building codes were different. They may have been just as good, or bad, as present day codes, for relevancy, yet, different. Appliances and fixtures will eventually require replacement or repair. As types of pipe and fastener threads change in fashion and as components change in design, more and more recent parts do not interchange with older ones. Repair may mean Replacement.

The Luscher Color Test, by Dr. Max Luscher, 1969, Random House;
translated to English by Ian Scott, 1971, can be a helpful resource.
Color can have wide ranging influence on our health.

Comfortable: positive stressors.

Comfort means having an environment in which we become relaxed without having to make any changes. It has a texture, color, temperature, expansiveness, utility, accessibility, and sound which we vibrate in harmony with. This can become extremely complex and challenging if the person with CFS-ME shares their residence with other people. It may be a spouse, their children, visitors, landlords, neighbors. Yes, whether family or neighbors, close or distant, you can be assured that THEIR preferences will often be different from your own. You may even find, as is often the experience, that YOUR preferences will change between when you are healthy and when you are ill for a longer, and/or, more intense period. What are YOU going to do?

In attached housing, including apartments, you SHARE your walls and hallway with your neighbors. You also share those areas with THEIR families and their visitors. If you have not been considerate of them in the past, you may reap a hell back to you that you have encouraged. If you have CFS-ME, it is usually too late to try and change your colors. If they have become noisy, demanding, and abusive, and you were before, or, chose to participate in same, don't expect them to feel sorry for you now and forgive you and change. You set the norm, or, at least allowed it. People who have no respect for you do whatever they want when they want to. They may even take pleasure in doing something which you NOW find irritating, just to impose the pain on you which they feel YOUR lack of love has impressed upon them earlier.

Blaming the emotional immaturity of family members or neighbors on poverty, race, religion, or culture only demonstrates YOUR ignorance. One can ALWAYS find representatives of each of these groups who act with self-respect, and, respect for others. If you are not ill, develop assertive communication, not anger. Develop listening skills, not gossip. Develop volunteerism, not selfishness. You can either encourage more harmony in those around you, or, conflict. Sitting on the fence simply means that you are encouraging whatever the others are presenting. If those around you are persistently abusive, then make a long-term personal choice to plan for a move into a surrounding which can provide you with more health sustaining potential. Try to work with others for a better surrounding. If there is no interest, you are better to find others elsewhere who value health and harmony. These take honesty, activism, assertiveness, involvement.

A more extensive discussion of Relationships is covered elsewhere.

Low maintenance: few surprises.

Attached - row housing is manufactured.
The workmanship and design can be high quality, or, only LOOK like quality. Let's face it, most of us are overwhelmed when we see anything in housing that is CLEAN and NEW. We expect and presume that something New must be better designed, constructed, and worth our monies than something older. Much of the time, we are correct in this assumption. When we are not, we pay severely in frustration and renovation. The faster and more urgently something is built, the more often that procedures and finishing will be lacking.

Here are some common problems ..
that lead to greater maintenance.
• Retirement: Builders that retire.
• Design: Inadequate ecological design.
• Incompetence: Faulty installation of materials.
• Disability: Workers who become disabled.
• Bankruptcy: Contractors who go bankrupt.

Retirement: Builders that retire.

Builders who are mature and elderly
can be the most skilled.
Experience and longevity can become wisdom if the person in consideration has a professional attitude, a liking for solving problems, an attention to detail, a loving family, health, and some form of spiritual strength or compassionate religious faith. These are a lot of qualities for a person to have. Such people can be found. They may take a while and some prayers to locate. They may not be who you expect. A builder who decides to retire AFTER agreeing to do a job for you, during the job, or immediately after the job, can present severe completion or warranty difficulties. These problems can be frustrating for a healthy person. For a person with CFS-ME, they can become energy siphons on a nearly dry energy well.

Everyone needs accommodation.
Row, townhouse, and apartment accommodations are usually constructed in groups. Persons with lower incomes, less work experience, smaller families and less education tend to find the economic demands of such housing more reasonable than others. Prudent investors, disciplined professionals, and, retired persons also may choose such housing. Regardless of these factors, most of these residents do NOT have, are not responsible for, and do not have the expense of these:

• Tools, for repairs.
• Supplies for repairs.
• Tools for painting/decorating.
• Tools for property management.
• Structural cleaning equipment/supplies.