Balancing Therapy.
Know, Respect, and Discipline
Your EGO.
INDEX
Example of EGO Interference.
More empowerment will come from more awareness.
To that end, I have included this second example of Ego interference.
For some people, any difficulty or risk is too much
What they forget is that if we and our ancestors had not made coping mistakes, none of us would have energy blocks today ... most of today's chronic illness would be absent ... interpersonal conflict would be minimal ... humanity would be self-controlled, content, and surrounded with abundance. It is unrealistic to expect that a part of one lifetime will erase thousands of years of abuse for everyone. At the least, you can take responsibility for your own life.
LEADERS ARE POOR MANAGERS.
Leaders want and are accustomed to getting the spotlight.
Sharing and teamwork are often not their best attributes.
Persons may reach contact with their Higher Selves anywhere between the time they begin releasing blocks to after they have released all of their blocks. The timing and capability are as personal as the individual is unique. The strength of initial contact to that of developed contact skill also differs. Having made contact does not guarantee continued contact. It is not that God will ever abandon you. God is always available to you. It is you who may shut out God.
AN EXAMPLE:
Martin (not his real name), had released all of his blocks (over 100). It was then that he made contact with his Higher Self. A combination of Ego and Personal Spirit doubts gave him an initial setback which regenerated 40 new blocks. These were quickly released within several days. Martin continued with frequent feedback and confirmation from me on his guidance and his methods for several months. I was working nearby so it was easy for him to come and see me on a moments notice.
EGOs INSIST ON HAVING THEIR OWN WAY.
A time came when I was moving my office location and would no longer be within walking distance of Martin. Following the Unconscious pattern which his Ego had utilized since he was an infant, Martin repeatedly asked me to check with my Higher Self to confirm that my move was necessary. Since options can change over time when they include and rely on the decisions of others for fulfillment, I did do this a number of times. From my experience of contacting my Higher Self, the nature of the decision, and the immediacy of the move, I knew that there was little likelihood of change now. I increasingly felt that he was challenging the guidance I was receiving and pressuring me to go against it. And, he was.
SMALL CHILDREN TEST their parent's consistency of standards frequently by insisting on having something even though the parent says "No". Their Ego is empowered when the parent gives in ... just to end the demands. Now the child has an Unconscious habit which encourages it to pester its parents for anything it wants ... until it gets it. Manipulation has been learned as a skill.
The good manipulator will win often in a society which avoids confrontation to the point of discarding standards. If other skills are integrated with the manipulation, like tact, deception, assertiveness, listening, and technical awareness --- the mix of positive and aggressive communication skills may produce an effective salesperson. Left unmuted, manipulation simply remains abuse.
EGOs DO NOT LIKE TO LOSE.
In normal human development, children often go through a period of Ego challenge during which they are encouraged to become aware that they are not the center of the universe and that other people exist around them and have needs also. This is a shock to the immature Ego. As an infant, attention, too often, comes at its first cry ... or whenever it wanted food, wanted snuggling. In North America, this age is sometimes referred to as "the terrible twos" --- indicating development around the age of two.
A FRUSTRATED EGO, often displayed by young children, becomes temper tantrums to enforce their demands ... crying, screaming, yelling, throwing, hitting, stomping .... The adult equivalent of these "acting out" responses is more often one of insisting, nagging, questioning without listening. The person chooses to ignore replies just keeps demanding. Adult egos also have a way of bullying with threats of what will happen if they don't get their own way. Of course, adults can always degrade the sophistication of their Ego responses to the simpler and more direct aggressive and violent means of the small child. A small child can cause little physical damage to an adult. Adults can cause great damage to themselves and others.
EGOs ARE GREATLY HURT WHEN THEY LOSE.
When an Ego does not win, and, especially if it is accustomed to winning by its methods when it feels that it is necessary to win --- it feels very emotionally hurt. In fact, expressions of this hurt are one way in which adult Egos again try to get their own way. "Making up" sexually after having a heated argument, violent disagreement, or negotiating a compromise --- is often a guarantee that whatever was considered the positive outcome of the discussion ... will be lost.
With the commitment of the argument lost in a sellout to passion, the mental mechanisms required to stabilize the memory of the commitment and enable effective recall for results is lost. Whatever new resolutions have been made will be forgotten almost as quickly by the person responsible for change. That means that the same problem will arise again ... and again ... and again. The Unconscious has not been reinforced so the potential for recall is minimal. New habits, patterns and responses are not acquired just by thinking about them once for a few seconds. Change seldom follows good intentions.
EGOs OFTEN REVERSE THEIR APPROACH WHEN HURT.
Egos are typically aggressive when they want their way.
If they are not succeeding, or have clearly lost --- it is natural for the Ego to resign into passivity and surrender. If the Ego feels that it is unfairly being denied or excluded, it converts frustration into anger and then into violence and vindictiveness.
The child may react to the overly strict and Ego-centered parent by avoiding the parent, becoming highly self-directed and independent, or simply passively agreeing with whatever the parent requests. Of course agreeing does not mean that unmonitored behavior will change. Adults with strong Egos often choose one of these common options also.
When I pointed out to Martin --- first assertively, secondly aggressively --- that his pestering increasingly challenged me to choose between his Ego and my Higher Self ... no change or acknowledgement followed. When I told him that under no circumstance would I go against the guidance of my Higher Self ... his Ego had to accept loss. Even though I would always be only a phone call away, his Ego chose to interpret this loss of having its own way as abandonment. His behavior change was subtle yet dramatic.
HURT EGOs CAN CHANGE ANGER INTO DENIAL.
Martin could not continue to rely on my Higher Self as a way to avoid testing for and developing his own access. Instead of having near instant confirmation on his Higher Self guidance, when he asked for it --- he would have to be patient. But most of all, he would have to be humble enough to risk asking first for himself. It is often easier to accept the expertise of another person than to risk making mistakes and so learn ourselves. Martin's Ego couldn't take the easy route, so --- it decided not to ask for any confirmation.
AN ALL-OR-NOTHING RESPONSE is non-negotiated passive choice.
Martin was at a crucial point of development with a business venture which he had been working on for 9 months. The business could have made him and a number of other people financially independent for the foreseeable future. It would have provided a helpful and valued service to millions of people. But to reach that success demanded the careful confirmation and following of Higher Self guidance. Uncomfortable decisions would have to be made and without the confidence of clear guidance they would be avoided.
EGOs DO NOT MAKE SPIRITUALLY-BASED CHOICES.
It is not their function or purpose. This is why leading a spiritually guided lifestyle in an EGO-based materialistic economy is difficult. The two have distinctly different value systems. Martin's Ego increasingly became active over the material side of his life: income, house, work. Martin was asking for guidance. Increasingly, Martin's Ego was interfering with the replies. Martin chose not to control this by avoiding Higher Self confirmation which was available but for which he was too proud to ask.
PRIDE USUALLY RESULTS IN FAILURE.
Pride occurs when the Ego becomes overconfident and plays god.
It believes that it can do anything and that the assistance and feedback of others, and God, is unnecessary and unimportant. Accepting, or even considering, an authority other than itself is plainly interference.
- FAILURE comes because the needed skills of others are lost through lack of acknowledgement, mistreatment, and lack of concern for those others.
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FAILURE arises because the overconfident Ego believes it can do the impossible --- as in attracting skills which it has demonstrated it is individually incapable of, or, has an inability to perform in an effective and efficient manner regardless of training, practice, and intent.
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FAILURE also follows from Ego overconfidence when pride prevents that person from determining what the associated details and features of something are so that effectiveness and efficiency and accuracy can be attained.
IMPATIENCE and a rush-to-success is one of the main reasons why many North Americans spend so much time, energy, and money and have so little to show for it in the long-term. Here, the longer Martin's pride kept him from confirming his Higher Self guidance and demonstrating consistency to his Ego, the more his Ego took command.
GUIDANCE DENIED by interference = opportunities lost.
During the next six months, both my own situation and Martin's changed a few times. For two months, we spoke on the phone almost daily. Then both of our offices were moved and we were again within walking distance of one another. Delays occurred in the development of Martin's business. Higher Self guidance provided Martin with a number of intervening alternatives which he could have followed with probable success. Yet increasingly, Martin avoided confirming his Higher Self guidance and let his Ego let him miss valuable opportunities by concentrating on Ego desires.
- Guidance called for Martin to apply for an office job and receive a base income. An office clerical position would have provided him with such an income and leave him with energy to pursue his long-term business aims in his spare time. Martin's Ego forced him to present himself as an expert and a consultant. With no background or references to support his declarations and no attraction for an office employment agency, nothing developed.
- Guidance called for Martin to prepare for a series of special interviewing sessions as further preparation for his business to proceed. He never found the time to begin or co-ordinate the preparation even though the nature of it was well outlined by the guidance.
- Higher Self guidance indicated that a small, yet valuable product should be developed and marketed on the Internet. Martin had the resources and the basic product design to begin with. This development always took second or third place to other Ego demands and gradually fell more and more into the background until nothing was being done. Eventually, its income benefit would come too late and the assistance he required for it was no longer be available.
- Guidance also indicated consistently that Martin should not become involved in and continue with a low-paying low-skill job. Ego-domination by this time was so invasive that his own testing consistently indicated for him to continue --- and he ignored any confirming feedback which was consistently demonstrating the opposite. Participation in this job denied him the time to continue with any of the opportunities mentioned above. Participation supported the Ego short-term compulsion to obtain income by any means in order to rationally preserve one's current level of possessions ... including his over-mortgaged house.
- Guidance was eventually denied, by Ego interference, for a long enough period of time that Martin lost --- easy access to a Higher Self confirming source, lost access to the assistance he required to finish the Internet product and market it, and, lost the opportunity to resolve difficulties and enjoy the success of the business which he and others had devoted considerable effort and commitment to --- a business which would have satisfied his Ego needs with financial independence.
THE CONCLUSION is not in yet.
We always have opportunities to change and learn.
Martin lost the biggest opportunity which he had ever had in his life: more contribution to humanity; more security; more money; less interpersonal stress; better health; involvement in a true team approach; active and recognized executive status. He might even lose the focus that his Ego had determined could not be lost at any cost: his house. Sometimes fear makes its own reality come true when the courage of humility could have erased it.
What have we learned here?
- More empowerment will come from more awareness;
- Egos insist on having their own way;
- Egos do not like to lose;
- Egos are greatly hurt when they lose;
- Egos often reverse their approach when hurt;
- Hurt Egos often change anger into denial;
- Pride usually results in failure;
- Guidance denied by interference = opportunities lost;
- Higher Self guidance can be confirmed by another;
- Ego interference with Higher Self guidance leads to great loss.
REMEMBER:
Ego interference only challenges about 6% of those who are or have released their energy blocks. When those persons demonstrate to their Ego that their commitment to Higher Self guidance is not only for the easy decisions and solutions and that they have empowered their Personal Spirit to always choose that direction ... their Ego will learn respect for the other identity components.
THERE ARE SEVERAL OTHER POSSIBILITIES.
The pain of disappointment and unnecessary loss suffered at the will of an interfering Ego can be so devastating that it is difficult for that Ego not to acknowledge its weaknesses and enable Higher Self guidance --- for its own eventual benefit.
There are no guarantees.
Guarantees deny choice.
If the person involved weakens too much in their Personal Spirit, does not experience strong enough failures, rationalizes such failures away, or follows Ego reversal into a non-spiritual lifestyle --- he or she may never again truly benefit from Higher Self guidance. This is tragic. This is choice. The alternative is that this person will return to a strong and unhindered contact with their Higher Self and once again receive huge opportunities and an opportunity for huge success.
Some Identity Management Guidalines:
- make decisions for today leading to tomorrow;
- humbly go where others fear to go for lack of guidance;
- acknowledge that others can do many things better than you;
- appreciate the gifts and limits of your Basic Personality;
- empower your Personal Spirit by deterring and avoiding abuse;
- respect your Reptilian unconscious for its survival concerns;
- reward and discipline your Ego for its assistance;
- caution and plan with your SuperEgo for the long-term;
- give thanks for the guidance of your Higher Self.
Get real, or you will go nowhere fast.
Managing Your Ego.
Your Ego is expressed consciously and rationally most of the time.
When teamed with the Reptilian Unconscious, it is expressed as either self-taught habits or as traumatically derived Energy Block addictions. Rationalizations are frequently not a sign of intelligence, as we are so often taught by authoritarian institutions. They more frequently are expressions of denial, justification, excuse, blame, and best guess.
None of these are factors of intelligence ... just convenient ways to avoid feelings of confusion and anxiety and to assume false pride rather than humility. Acknowledging this to your Ego together with your desire to have more accurate and relevant decision-making than the 50% success rate with rationalization and you will have taken a giant step. Here are some other factors that can assist you in managing your Ego.
- Appoint your Personal Spirit as the Manager of your Identity Team;
- Know and build on the features of your Basic Personality;
- Be aware of and acknowledge the positive contributions of your Ego;
- Keep a record of guided decisions and their positive outcomes;
- Note and remind your Ego of inappropriate decisions it encouraged;
- Get going on releasing your Energy Blocks and increasing your skills;
- Take adequate rest so that your Unconscious can do its maintenance;
- Learn about Hypersensitivities and avoid or recover from them so that your Unconscious is not distracted and overburdened with chronic illness.
BALANCING, FOR HEALTH
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