THINK, BEFORE you go further!
Have you read the previous pages in this site? Are you ready to go ahead? If you are, greater freedom than you now have awaits you.

How Real are You?

An AWARENESS OF REALITY is crucial to balanced health.
RELEVANCY as an ability to put one's experiences and those of others into some sense of constructive example of choice is also fundamental. This strategy is not easy. It requires a clearing away of myths. They raise needless fears, erase constructive cautions and encourage individuals to be dependent upon the "benefits" of gossip, fantasy, and human authority. Those traits deny spiritual strengthening and exclude the empowering factors of understanding, honesty, sharing, empathy, openness, and patience.

THEORY has little room in this dynamic.
Any good library or information service can provide you with 10 different possibilities for every question you raise. Few of them will give you enough information to qualify each option according to its benefits and weaknesses. Theory is what may have, or is expected to, work sometime ... expressed as something that "should" work all the time.

For people who are chronically sick, the reality is that what "should" work often fails. Reality is what has been personally experienced --- first hand success or failure. There are no "shoulds". The information presented below is NOT theoretical. Personal experience, direct and indirect research, or, verified reported experience has yielded the result.

Don't be a horse's ass?

MISUNDERSTANDINGS and misinformation and superstitions frequently result in fractured relationships. Actions and attitudes expressed aggressively and negatively against another person are potentially traumatic and ENERGY BLOCK forming regardless of whether based on truth and fact or on misinformation.

Finding out that you are wrong AFTER hurting another person intimately (betraying trust) is usually too late for any future relationship benefits. Finding out that you were right yet that other individual would have been an ideal partner for you, IF, you had been more compassionate and humble --- is tragic. We seldom get a second chance at a first meeting. We seldom get a second chance to establish trust when we have shown abandonment, rejection, abuse, intolerance, or injustice.

A PARTNER is usually involved in the adult sexual experience.
For joint satisfaction and ecstasy it is imperative that all involved parties have an equal understanding of sexuality: assumptions make an ASS out of U and ME (ASS-U-ME). The truth often shocks the person who has been sheltered in naivety, prudishness and egotism by myth.

The ORIGINS of those myths can be the extension of religious authoritarian intolerance, educated intellectualized assumptions, spurious connection of irrelevant observations, projection of fears onto incomplete perceptions, or, superstitious association of factual elements which are coincidental and rather than cause-effect are the common result of an unknown, or, the result of multiple different and shared influences. Only YOU know the impact and value of YOUR experiences. Only YOU know how You feel about an issue or an experience.

The same is true for your partner.
YOU do NOT know what their experiences have been like or the impact or value they have taken, UNLESS your partner humbly shares that information openly with you. Their behavior may SEEM to rationally suggest a meaning to you. Only THEY know what it really means, and then only IF they are NOT in DENIAL.

A SHARED Exploration of the patterns, results, and feelings is sometimes the only way of gaining an understanding of what the patterns mean that we express. That degree of sharing demands RISK that is only justified by trust. Intelligence is gained and demonstrated by the person who extends their self- and other knowledge through the affirming benefit of shared discovery with sincere associates who have EARNED the trust of open and integrating communication.

The result of truth can be a freedom of positive self-directedness, positive self-awareness, and positive self-esteem. "Normality" is often a friendly work for ignorant or publicly accepted. Mutually enjoyable sex is destroyed by the interference of personal ignorance and misunderstanding or a search for public understanding. Intimacy is private, not public.

The Forty Basics.

1. Sexual frequency (healthy) varies individually: daily to annually;
2. Weekly sexual frequency (reported average) for adults is 3 to 4;
3. The female hymen (physical virginity) need not be torn for intercourse;
4. Breastfeeding can transfer maternal immune benefits and disease;
5. A contagious genital disease will be acquired by most adults during their lifetime;

6. Breastfeeding discontinues menstruation and assists birth control;
7. Penis size (average reported, erect) is 6.3 in. long, 5 in. around;
8. Penis size (average reported, flaccid) is 2.7 in. long, 2.6 in. around;
9. Penis & vulva sizes can usually be accommodated by sexual positions;

10. Regular sexual activity is healthier than an ever-changing frequency;
11. Masturbation (self-stimulation) is practiced by most mammals;
12. Masturbation does not influence your level of intelligence or sanity;
13. Oragenitalism (oral genital stimulation) is practiced by all mammals;
14. Libido is often NOT equal for both partners to a relationship;
15. Regular healthful sexual or other activity assists colon health;

16. Sexual activity encourages higher metabolic rates;
17. Higher metabolic rates assist optimal weight maintenance;
18. Alcoholic beverages reduce inhibition, stimulation, performance, and memory while encouraging imagination, bravado, immaturity, denial;
19. Semen contains zinc, fructose, vitamin C, amino acids, enzymes, prostaglandins, is alkaline and has no toxins or bacteria;

20. Circumcision assists cleanliness WHEN normal hygiene is infrequent;
21. Sexual addiction may accompany chronic depression symptoms;
22. Unwanted children and pregnancies result in the greatest source of human abuse;

23. Couple infertility can result from immune defense against swallowed semen: if fertility is desired, abandon fellatio-to-orgasm practices;
24. Assertive communication reduces incidences of abuse, rape, misunderstanding and increases trust, self-esteem, and commitment;
25. A person can become hypersensitive to the genital secretions of their partner: it is always healthier to get balanced BEFORE intimacy;
26. Shaved pubic hair stubble can provide substantial skin irritation;
27. Excessive sensual stimulation (touching activities) reduces one's libido;
28. Vaginitis is encouraged by wearing tight clothing, poor hygiene, use of antibiotics, excessive emotional stress, use of birth control pills;
29. Regular breast stimulation assists muscle tone & lessens cancer risk;

30. Extended birth control pill use can reduce sexual drive (libido);
31. High vitamin C intake can decrease or discontinue one's libido;
32. Fellatio (oral stimulation of the penis) can increase female breast size;
33. Prostaglandin hormones cause contraction of the uterus and can initiate birthing;
34. Semen taste: meats, salt and diseases give it a strong taste and odor;
35. Incest is believed to be active in 50% of American families;
36. Boredom and adultery are reduced by variety, honesty, openness, assertiveness;

37. A vasectomy reduces birth control costs and sexual anxiety;
38. No known health problems are associated with vasectomies;
39. In 1973, Dr. David Reuben estimated that 70 to 80% of Americans practiced oral sex ... a tremendous increase from 1959;
40. Mercury toxicity (i.e. dental amalgams) can discontinue one's libido;
41. Removal of one testicle (orchiectomy) neither changes fertility nor sexual ability.